Who We Are
Who is Resolution Seekers Divorce Services
After being in private practice as a family and divorce attorney for years and having litigated hundreds of cases I have come to believe that there needs to be a viable path for families in crisis that does not involve the costly path of court intervention and expensive litigation. Sadly this is not a path every family can take. Often there are allegations of abuse, both physical and mental, or issues of addiction or psychological problems. Whatever the reason, sometimes people are unable to seek an alternate path and they need the intervention of the courts to resolve their domestic matters. What people don’t realize is that this path is very expensive and very time consuming. Because they are unable to rationally approach the matter they enter into a system in which thousands of dollars will not be spent for retirement, dreams or children’s college educations but will be given to attorneys and other professionals. In the end they will subject their entire life and the lives of their children to the ruling of a single man or woman they do not know who does not know them, this being a judge. My experience has shown me that this process is devastating emotionally and economically for the parties and rarely is anyone satisfied or happy having gone through it.
As I stated, people often have no choice and need aggressive litigation and need the courts guidance and rulings; however, the court system was never set up with the consideration of family matters. In fact, domestic litigation as a legal specialty is a fairly modern development. Family litigation is unique by its very nature. You are not suing an entity or individual for damages that someone caused, you are not seeking justice as a victim of a crime, you are not seeking relief because you were not paid; you are asking a judge to dissolve your marriage and tell you how you will interact and raise your children. Family matters are very personal and very emotional and the court is a very impersonal and very cynical place. The judge does not know you nor do they actually care about you, they are not going to make moral decisions that give you emotional relief. As such it is beneficial for families to pause and attempt to resolve these issues in an alternative format in which they have complete control of the process both financially and emotionally.
Courts today also recognize this and during the litigation process will demand that parties mediate. This is positive and often aids parties in reaching resolution; however, in this process the parties have already been in litigation for months and there are two attorneys involved. As such the expenses are extreme and the emotions are very high but sometimes they do settle. I often think after a long mediation in this process why they could not have done this before spending thousands of dollars and destroying the family and the children. The reality is that every good attorney has a very good idea of the direction and possible outcome of your matter after the initial interview. Sadly not every good attorney directs your matter to a quick and efficient outcome.
This is why I started Resolution Seekers. I wanted to provide the hundreds of people out there navigating the very painful reality of divorce or post divorce crisis with an alternative path. There is another way to reach a solution and too many people feel lost during this process and falsely believe it has to be much more difficult than it is. If there is any ability at all to rationally deal with one another then there is a way to reach resolution without months or years of legal fees and court intervention.
Individuals do not realize the control they have in the process and the decisions they make in the family matters. If the court is satisfied the children’s needs are being met and the matter is legally sound the court will grant the divorce. Therefore it is beneficial to those able to sit at the table and discuss their needs, concerns and reach a compromise. Too often people do research and read one of the thousands of blogs out there that may or may not have pertinent or good information, they talk to multiple attorneys and hear multiple explanations. Some attorneys give sound advice, some attorneys are concerned about meeting financial obligations and lean more towards unnecessary litigation.
The Point is that the first need in the process is information. Individuals going through this process need all the information necessary to make sound decisions and to weigh their options. As Resolution Seekers there are years of actual legal practice and knowledge and in an atmosphere in which those given the advice are not worried about billing the matter or are not hired as an individual advocate. What does this mean?
When you hire an attorney to litigate your domestic matter or divorce you are hiring someone to advise you only and to advocate for your position only. As I stated, this may be necessary in difficult circumstances; yet, when you enter a family matter in this posture it is adversarial by its nature and you will take an adversarial and aggressive path, which benefits the attorney guiding you on that path.
At Resolution Seekers you both are present in the process with an individual who represents neither but can equally guide each of you.
Instead of lawyering up and preparing for battle you can come in in a non-adversarial atmosphere and ask all of the questions you need, get all of the information necessary and if you decide can begin to actually negotiate and resolve your issues. You will be armed with real knowledge and facts regarding the potential pitfalls of your situation, possible outcomes and what the law provides as well as the experience my office has with actual courts. You don’t have to guess, you don’t have to listen to doomsday sales pitches, you will approach the most personal situation in your life fully informed and with the dignity it deserves.
Most importantly, you both will be in control of the decisions you make for your family and your children without emotional devastation and financial ruin.
